Coping With Post-Partum Depression on Mother’s Day

Many women experience post-partum depression and/or post-partum anxiety after the birth of their baby.  Symptoms include anxiety and panic attacks, feeling worthless, fear of not being a good mother, fear of being left alone with the baby, excessive irritability, mood swings, sadness, crying uncontrollably for long periods of time, disinterest in the baby and in things that you used to enjoy.  If you are experiencing this, then “celebrating” Mother’s Day may seem nearly impossible.  Here are 4 reminders to help you can get through Mother’s Day this year.

1. You are not alone.

At least 1 in 7 women experience post-partum depression and anxiety and it is NOT your fault.  Remember that not too long ago you went through the stress of pregnancy and giving birth to a human being.  You are still recovering, physically, mentally, and hormonally.  And sleep-deprivation is no joke—it wreaks havoc on mood, motivation, and energy.

2. Be kind and gentle to yourself.

Adjusting to life with a new baby can be very stressful on many fronts.  Be sure to prioritize your self-care, in order to manage the stress.  Give yourself a break, cut yourself some slack, and ask for help.

3. Be honest about how you want to spend Mother’s Day.

Let your loved ones know how you want to be supported on this day. Give your family some guidance on your do’s and don’ts. There are no “shoulds” or “right” ways to celebrate. Perhaps the conventional celebration of a meal with your family isn’t what you want or need at all.  Maybe you’d prefer to spend the day on your own, getting a massage, hiring someone to do the laundry and clean the house, taking a nap, or watching a movie. Whatever your preference is, it’s ok! Don’t judge yourself.  This is YOUR day; so spend it however you would like, in a way that is healing and relaxing.  Go for it.

4. There is hope, and you CAN feel better, with time and support.

When you’re in the midst of it, post-partum depression and anxiety, is all-consuming and miserable, but it won’t last forever.  If you haven’t already, you may want to consider joining a group where you can meet and get support from other women with newborns.  Additionally, seeking treatment in the form of therapy and/or medication can be beneficial.